Falling Awake

Just Darts Since 2009

What’s going on

I haven’t posted in a long time.  My attention has been tied up in surviving day-to-day.  It’s very hard when your boss hates you.  It’s harder when he hates you more when you do a good job.  For the last two months, I’ve been battling him, and I was never prepared for this kind of combat.

I get home, I eat, and I go to bed.  The next day, same thing.  Over and over.  That’s been my life the last month or so.

I think things will be better in two weeks.


UPDATED 5/6/07

I just wanted to tack on an addendum to this post, as it looks very bleak the way it stands.  I’ve been getting more page views on this than anything I’ve posted in the last month, and I don’t want to leave anyone with the impression that I’m still in that stituation.

In a nutshell, I’m good.  I am enjoying my job more than I have in years.  I’m proud of the fact that I was able to continue to do a good job for no other reason than my own work ethic, but I have to say I’m ridiculously pleased at getting a pat on the back now and then.

Anyway, that’s it for now:  I’m good.


7 responses to “What’s going on

  1. Heather March 14, 2007 at 5:06 am

    I’m looking forward to March 24th with you. It will get better. Need to look forward to a vacation? We can help with that… H.

  2. sandy March 17, 2007 at 8:33 pm

    One more week! Never forget, what comes around, goes around. His time will come after you are comfortably settled in elsewhere.

    Just breathe…

  3. sandy March 23, 2007 at 6:34 am

    One more day! Eat, drink, and be merry! And call your sister!

  4. steve randall April 20, 2007 at 9:44 pm

    Really intersting blog—have enjoyed it for a while—am curious as to what happened with the new store,what happened to the boss—am having issues at my job with my boss—am wondering if my case is similar and what you did to resolve it.

  5. Mike Kriskey April 22, 2007 at 7:58 pm

    Thanks, Steve.

    Not much to tell, really. I stayed with my company at this new location, as did my boss, at a different store. I have to meet with him (or at least talk on the phone with him) this week for my 2006 performance review, but after that I don’t have to think about him ever again.

    I knew that there was a time limit on my having to work for him, which is why I stuck it out for a while longer than I really wanted to. Just kept my head down and did my job as well as I could.

    If I hadn’t known this was going to end soon, I would have quit, without a doubt. The last year has just been mentally exhausting and I wouldn’t have been able to continue indefinitely.

    I have my suspicions that the man is a psychopath. He lies for no reason, overreacts to any perceived slight with frightening rage, can never admit the smallest error, and seems gleeful when people around him are miserable (which he does his best to make happen). I can’t really tell if he’s ever felt remorse, or guilt. He can act as if he does, but it doesn’t seem natural when he shows it (or any human emotion). It’s like he watches people’s reactions too carefully for any higher emotion he’s displaying to be real.

    If your boss sounds anything like this, check out a book called “Snakes in Suits.” It helped me understand how to stay off his radar.

    In short, the book advises: Do your work well. Don’t try to beat him at his own game. Protect yourself by taking notes on your own work and his behavior. Don’t take his word for anything. Never confront him–you might be surprised to learn what he’s capable of. Finally, don’t burn any bridges. Psychopaths can lie more convincingly than you can tell the truth, and you’d come out looking like a whiner.

    Hope some of this helped, and good luck. I hope your situation is not as bad.

  6. steve randall April 23, 2007 at 9:05 pm

    Thank you very much for the info—will get the book tomorrow,BTW I’m at my company for about a year and a half—how long did you work with him,was it for a short period or did this behavior “just happen”,I’m impressed that you were able to stick it out,it’s fascinating to me how people “work” and how or why this happens.

  7. Mike Kriskey April 25, 2007 at 7:44 pm

    I actually worked with him for years, but I always thought I was the problem: I must have made him angry about something, I must have misunderstood something when he told me a ridiculous lie, etc. When I started comparing notes with other employees (he had told each of us that the others had been bad-mouthing them, so it took a long time for that to happen), I realized what was going on. That’s when I started protecting myself and not talking to him about anything except business. That’s when things got VERY bad. I put up with it for about a year, then was going to quit when I heard my location was being shut down. I stuck it out for one more year after that, as we kept getting reprieves. I love the job, or I would have walked earlier.

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